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Emotional Intelligence and Managament


Everyone’s always talking about Emotional Intelligence (EI) but what exactly is it? One important aspect of emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions – in oneself and others – and to use that information appropriately. For example, recognizing emotional intelligence in oneself can help you regulate and manage your emotions, while recognizing emotions in others can lead to empathy and success in your relationships, both personal and professional.
Given the importance of emotional intelligence, I thought it might be helpful to give a very brief overview of the topic, as well as 10 ways to enhance your emotional

 1. Don’t interrupt or change the subject. If feelings are uncomfortable, we may want to avoid them by interrupting or distracting ourselves. Sit down at least twice a day and ask, “How am I feeling?” It may take a little time for the feelings to arise. Allow yourself that small space of time, uninterrupted.

2. Don’t judge or edit your feelings too quickly. Try not to dismiss your feelings before you have a chance to think them through. Healthy emotions often rise and fall in a wave, rising, peaking, and fading naturally. Your aim should be not to cut off the wave before it peaks.
3. See if you can find connections between your feelings and other times you have felt the same way. When a difficult feeling arises, ask yourself, “When have I felt this feeling before?” Doing this may help you to realize if your current emotional state is reflective of the current situation, or of another time in your past.
4. Connect your feelings with your thoughts. When you feel something that strikes you as out of the ordinary, it is always useful to ask, “What do I think about that?” Often times, one of our feelings will contradict others. That’s normal. Listening to your feelings is like listening to all the witnesses in a court case. Only by admitting all the evidence will you be able to reach the best verdict.

5. Listen to your body. A knot in your stomach while driving to work may be a clue that your job is a source of stress. A flutter of the heart when you pick up a girl you have just started to date may be a clue that this could be “the real thing.” Listening to these sensations and the underlying feelings that they signal will allow you to process with your powers of reason.
6. If you don’t know how you’re feeling, ask someone else. People seldom realize that others are able to judge how they are feeling. Ask someone who knows you (and whom you trust) how you are coming across. You may find the answer both surprising and illuminating.

7. Tune in to your unconscious feelings. How can you become more aware of your unconscious feelings? Try free association. While in a relaxed state, allow your thoughts to roam freely and watch where they go. Analyze your dreams. Keep a notebook and pen at the side of your bed and jot down your dreams as soon as you wake up. Pay special attention to dreams that repeat or are charged with powerful emotion.
8. Ask yourself: How do I feel today? Start by rating your overall sense of well-being on a scale of 0 and 100 and write the scores down in a daily log book. If your feelings seem extreme one day, take a minute or two to think about any ideas or associations that seem to be connected with the feeling.

9. Write thoughts and feelings down. Research has shown that writing down your thoughts and feelings can help profoundly. A simple exercise like this could take only a few hours per week.
10. Know when enough is enough. There comes a time to stop looking inward; learn when its time to shift your focus outward. Studies have shown that encouraging people to dwell upon negative feelings can amplify these feelings. Emotional intelligence involves not only the ability to look within, but also to be present in the world around you.

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87 comments on “Emotional Intelligence and Managament

  1. Excellent analysis
    And advice.. Great
    To share.. Thanks..
    My FriEnd
    Imran..:)

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  2. I love what you write! Thanks for sharing ya Imran. Looking forward for your coming posts!

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  3. Inspiring write up Imran Ali !I love this.Thanks for sharing. Anita.

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  4. it’s really a thought provoking post,
    thank u imran bro..

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  5. umm, amazing light spot ,, but i wished if you defined it more scientifically ..
    still amazing

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  6. Thank you Imran Ali for reminding 🙂 very thought provoking

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  7. Thanks Imran for visiting my blog and liking the posts…

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  8. Your page is everything I’ve been looking for. Thank you so much for all your posts. May Allah bless you.

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  9. Another gem! Bhot khoob, brother Imran!

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  10. Thanks for the great advice you have there. ♡

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  11. Informative! We’re on the same wave-length. 🙂

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  12. प्यार भी करते हो और शब्द खोजते हो,
    अभिव्यक्ति का ये कैसा फलसफा है।
    मै मौन रहता हूं वो सब समझ लेता है,
    मौहब्बत ही बताती है वो क्यों खफा-२ सा है।

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  13. A great share thank you. It was a pleasure to see you on my blog thanks for the visit.

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  14. Some really good advice. Found this especially interesting: “Don’t judge or edit your feelings too quickly.” I think I do that.

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  15. Nice witreup…Thanks for this post, Imran !

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  16. Emotional Intelligence is what helps us move further ahead than any other type of intelligence or knowledge. Great tips!

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  17. Simple and yet precise guide on how tap the potential of emotional strength. Well done!

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  18. Very practical tips for self-awareness and self -management

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  19. Thanks for throwing light on this topic.It is high time we give importance to our emotional quotient equally as we focus on the aptitude development for enhancing our I.Q.

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  20. I am already practicing this. First I you have Patience it is easy to. Tolarance is the qualification
    Those who lecturer and do not practice is the most intolerant person.
    Even
    In hell God put some preacher to preach how to seek heaven
    Here we, the educated called it “misunderstanding”

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  21. Emotional intelligence is an important topic of discussion these days! Mastering over one’s emotion is challenging, it can take ages. Currently reading a chapter on it. This post is quite informative and useful.

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  22. Agreed with all of the suggestions! It takes a highly emotionally intelligent person to recognize all of that btw.

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  23. Seriously really 😊 good!!! Supet advices

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  25. This is great advice and is a good tool box to have no matter what setting or relationships you are applying it to. Thanks!

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  26. Thanks for liking my stuff, and I think that this is really a good article. I like the one about Fatwa too, lol!

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  27. An Excellent post, my Dear Imran! Thanks for sharing.

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  28. Reblogged this on lovehappinessandpeace and commented:
    *******
    A Very Good post!
    *******

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  29. Wonderful post. A great analysis of what should and shouldn’t be done while handling feelings. Loved it. Thanks also for stopping by and liking my posts 🙂

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  30. This is very insightful! Came across this at the right time. Thank you,Imran! 🤗

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  31. Very well written! I love writing down things in a journal, it really helps me sort things out.

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  32. well done, impressive!!

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  33. Hi Imran
    Thank you for like all of my posts. It’s like a bomb, I know it from my notification. Thank you for making the best day on WordPress.

    I also love your posts. Hope you will post a new ones. Thank you again. Have a great day 😀

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  34. Nyc blog.. following uh fr more!!

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  35. This is going to be very helpful..Thankyou 😊

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