*Children without Fathers*
Today more than ever, victims of a free society are the children.
With 15 million children in the United States alone living in poverty, it is not difficult to understand the stresses and injustices being faced. It can be safely assumed that for the most part, these children are living with their single mothers, who are usually earning much less than the fathers who after divorce make a complete disappearing act, do not pay child support, and who carry on as if they never had a child is “deadbeat dads” contemporary studies show how important the father figure is for all children. Boys especially, need male role models, but current studies are showing a disadvantage for children raised without fathers. Without the father’s presence, researches contend, children are more likely going to learn how to deal with life much the same way their mothers do, often more emotionally charged. Boys raised in the absence of a father are especially able to manipulate the mother who is not as rigid in discipline as father usually is. Before long the kids are out from under the mother’s control.
There have been studies documenting that 98% of juvenile offenders come from homes with absent fathers or homes with stepfathers, while in contrast only 17% were without a mother. While there are numerous studies linking a mother’s absence due to working outside of the home, there seems to be a correlation that has been ignored between delinquency and weak or absent fathers. As Terri Apter puts it, ” Sons need fathers if they are to mature into adults who can function in this demanding and often unfriendly society. Men who have had the benefit of a strong bond with their fathers are most likely to be successful in their education and careers; they are less emotional and more logical in their approach to life. Because men show more intrest in studies about automobiles, electronics and architecture, they often know how to deal more effectively with things related to everyday necessities such as the maintenance of automobiles and house repairs. These little but valuable how-to techniques are of vital importance to everyday living. Without a man around the house woman find they struggle more with things they do not fully understand or have an intrest in.
New studies suggest that even young girls are deeply effected when raised without father. In short, the studies found that women who had a strong father figure were more likely to succeed in the social stratosphere in comparison to women who did not grow up with fathers.
# single mothers, juvenile,Orphans
This is called as “”fatherless growth”.
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Well said !!!
Tabish bro
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Nice to see you posting again.. Imran Ali..
And while all of this is true and excellent
Information.. it is also true when the
Father is lost for whatever reason
From the Nuclear Family of
Two Parents when Life is
Nomadic and there is
No Longer an extended
Family and Close-Knit
Village to Fill the
Void of
Divine Masculine
Influence all that’s
Left is for a Boy to
Become His own Father
And that is an Extremely
Difficult task to seek alone
But never the less that is the
Reality of
Modern Life
When A Dollar
Bill as God to Make A
Nomadic Hunt of Life
Is valued over the God
Of Love where Folks
Stick together as
Love and of
Course a
Nuclear
Family does
Not Guarantee that
With Both Parents
Overwhelmed Working
For the God of the Dollar
Bill while the Children are
Raised by Electronic
Devices
With No
Soul in a Cave of
Home separated
From the Breath
Of God
Outdoors
In a New Disease
Globally Spreading
Of Nature Deficit Disorder
NDD that is another way of
Saying GDD God Deficit
Disorder
In
Separation
Of Human
Living
Dying
Soul as Life..
Anyway.. again
Nice to see you
Writing.. Again.. my FriEnd..:)
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Spot on
Fine addition to write up
Thanks Fred!
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My Pleasure.. thanks
For the inspiration
Of the information
You provide here
My
FriEnd..:)
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Interesting perspective. Although I agree with the importance of a good (emphasis) masculine figure in the rearing of children, I remind myself that in a less than perfectly structured society, or when individuals perform their respective parts less than ideally; an argument can be made for well-brought-up, as well as adjusted children raised minus the nuclear family model. For example, where a parent must live away from their children because of work.
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Thank you very much indeed
For your visit and precious comment
Gratitude
Love &
Regards! ! !
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You’re welcome 😊 Imran. 💐
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This is so sad, but true I guess.
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Indeed it is true.
Thanks for your visit
Gratitude
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Regards ! ! !
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You’re very welcome 🙂
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to the point 😉 my father was absent as well;-) the results are visible on my blog;-) I’m inviting you, br Paulina, Poland;-)
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Hello, Paulina! Went to Your site, but found everything, including Your Facebook page, un-understandable! Frankly, I do not even know what language it was, – Look at me, Only Now noticed that You have written ‘Poland.’ . 😦 …Here You have written in English. It would be good if You would write some thing in English too! …I see that You are a Sports Person! Kudos and Regards and All the Best. 🙂
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Well… I know 4 Foreign languages – maybe it’s a high time you should start learning as well? 😉🤔loads of education in a New Year !!!!!
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Hearty Kudos on learning those 4, my Dear Paulina. I myself know 3, and write and speak extensively, which keeps too busy for new things now! 🙂 Love and Regards. 🙂
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Nice perspective and well explained !
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Thank you very much indeed !
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Regards! ! !
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Very thought provoking post, well done Imran on your sensitivity and vivid imagery. The absence of a father is well apparent on my blog writings. Sadly the mentality in Pakistan about orphans is very negative and it gets more discriminatory when you are a orphan daughter.
Complete difference in treatment even inside families and also public sphere.
Men within relatives and clan behave very strangely with young girls/ young women that are orphans,and these same very men will behave very carefully with girls/young women that are not fatherless.
In case that a girl/ young woman father is dead is the biggest curse and hurdle that I and million of fatherless daughters go through in Pakistani society.
I applaud your post and boldness to take on such a touchy subject. Salaams.
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Thanks for your visit Sadia
And comment as well !!
Wassalam! !!
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Thanks Imran.
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Thanks what for ….?
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For reading and liking my posts.
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Imran Ali if it’s possible I would like to work and support with you in Uganda Africa because here its so worse, in Uganda more children they failed to get there future aspects because of losing there parents father or mother but for me I decided to make an orphan project and maybe you can try to see this and I may need your help if you can kigungukidseducare.wordpress.com
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Serious topic
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Indeed it is ….
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Thank you for passing by my blog… and thanks a lot for the generous likes !
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You are most welcome! !!
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Nice write up.. even though I don’t agree with many of the points mentioned. This topic is subjected to debate.
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Thank you very much indeed !
What are those points ..?
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Mind blowing post
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Thanks a lot !
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Please read my first post
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I must confess that a true father figure is very essential for the children, therefore your opinion is generally right, however it depends on the personality of the child as well.
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Yeah it depends on child personality but society and collective psych also play a vital role.
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eye opener post. Almighty Allah created parents to bring new life this world and made them both responsible to raise their children together. Both mother and father are responsible. If one dies or leaves for any reason, it is the child who suffers the most. So parents should, ought to and MUST try and sacrifice their likes, dislikes and comfort for their children, That’s why divorce though allowed but disliked by the Creator
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Thank you
Khaala jaan !!!
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jeetay raho
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Thanks a lot for your likes and follow😍
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You are most welcome
Gratitude
Love &
Regards! ! !
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This is so true, and I am an example of it. My father grew without a father figure and until this day, he is a very emotional guy who has issues even when going on business trips because he feels lonely… I’m a married woman, and he still acts like a kid and seeks emotional comfort from others. When I was a kid, I remember him just as someone who ran away from his marital problems at home and spend even weekends at work. At some point they divorced and I lost contact with him for more than a decade. Definitely I can say that I never had a strong male figure and it shows with all the issues I have. Kids need both parents present in their lives. Not just physically, also mentally and emotionally. Teaching by example is the best thing they can do, you don’t tell your kid to be a good man or woman and walk away, you become a great man or woman so your kid follows your example. Or so I think, based on my experiences 🙂 Great post Imran!
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Thank you very much indeed for your lovely comment and experience,
You seem to b a nice lady at heart.
May Almighty protect you and your family from all evils !
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Alicia
Read it this one …..
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Oooh I just read it and truly agree, thank you for sharing your insightful posts with the rest of the world 😊
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Thank you once again !!!
Alicia
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Kudos once again, my Dear Imran. Heart touching.
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Thank you Dear Swami ji !!!
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Thank You, Imran! 🙂
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Never saw it that way. This made me think. 🤔👆
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Thanks !!!
Nishita for you love and support !!
Well conditions and satuation more dangerous than we think
A must read book
“Weapons of mass instruction”
By
John latter gatto
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Truly said!
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Thank you for so many likes 🙂
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Thank you for so many likes ☺️
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You are most welcome
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Regards 🙂
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I’ve been told this by psychologists: a mother trains a child’s sense of being, and a father trains a sense of security in their identity. Great thoughts!
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Thank you very much indeed
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This article is excellent, but in the last sentence in the second paragraph, you misspelled “interest.”
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Thank you xara for correction !!!
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Very well written. I can relate to this.
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Thought provoking article. Thank you for sharing. I agree with you that children when raised by both parents do better in life. Both the father and the mother figures are important for the blossoming of a boy or a girl into a healthy, sane and responsible adult. Probably a man who has had an unhappy childhood will leave behind his kid/s.
Promiscuity is another plague. On the whole, the world is a very sad place.
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Thank you Dear Anita ji
Spot on
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Very interesting and important information you shared! It highlights the importance of both parents and how in the absence of one, maybe a focus on finding good mentors for the child can help.
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Thank you very much indeed!!!
Yentl
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I heard that in Afghanistan, there are almost two million widows and orphans. Why worry about the kids in the US when the fellow Muslims are languishing?
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Ok
Who killed those two millions…?
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I hope you know the whole story of Afghanistan.
Once America called Taliban that thier top leaders are equavalant to our founding fathers of America like Abraham Lincoln, George Washington…..
Then called them terrorist.
Then again (now) calling friend & guest.
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Yes. And the Taliban claims to wage war against the infidels by using the weapons provided by the infidels. Isn’t it?
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Yes !
As Mr. BUSH called it’s a crusade against heathens.
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Crusade against heathens is when they fight the Soviet (Mujahideens vs Soviet). How about Taliban bombing the Afghans ? Crusade against whom?
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No no
When US invaded Afghanistan
After 911
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Title is touchy and write up say lots of in itself.
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Thank you very much indeed
Soulwriter.
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Harsh reality
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Indeed it is ……
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I totally agree with you as a person who have suffered from the problem you explained here. I had a chance to observe it as a teacher, too… I also like seeing the impact of the father on an author’s life and writing, and enjoy studying it. I mean, I enjoy solving this puzzle and getting the idea through lines. I do not enjoy the fact of course because it is so sad.
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Thank you very much indeed
Ozlem.
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Gozden irak, gonulden de irak olur. –
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😊 Wow! How could you get that?! 👏
Thanks
Regards..
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Welcome !
I get it from
Mehmet Akif Ersoy
Love him….!!!
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Cok tessekur !!!
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Ne mutlu Türküm diyene!
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😄👏👏👏
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I can subscribe that 100 per cent. This is a weakness in our society and social systems. Growing up fatherless leaves no kid unaffected. Many of them develop strange behavior, psychological syndromes or volatile bonding.
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Thank you very much indeed !
As our beloved Hitler said
“To be German is to be clear”
I am glad that u admit the weaknesses of your society
You are brave and truthful as well
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Hitler said a lot, for example “Germans are fast as race dogs, tough as leather and hard as Krupp’s steel”😊 Considering the weaknesses of my society is very much allowed in my society, which has also its strengths and merits. No one is put into prison for publishing things the government doesn’t like. We protect all religions and their worship, and all the world wants to live with us, it seems😄
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I appreciate that !
I personally respect honarable Chancellor
Ma’am Angela Merkel.
And I highly admire free education in your respected country
And German engineering as well !!!
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Good one ..keep up the good work..it reminded of my friend who lost her father in an accident while reading your blog post ..it’s touching..
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Thank you very much indeed
Anu
For your kind words and support.
Gratitude
Love &
Regards !!!
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Welcome 😊
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I hope you are fit n fine
Healthy n safe !!!
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Yeah..we are fine 😊..thank you..are you from India?
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Yes
Very much indian
I hope evrything kushal mangal at ur site
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Hahaha..not that much kusal and mangal😇…in our province cases surpassed 14k
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Oh my good God !!!
May God protect us from this epidemic.
You sound south indian ..
R u ?
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Yeah..that’s tru..😇..we are settled here in Canada..
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Yea
North America badly hit by Covid
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Girls without fathers sometimes search for a father figure in all the wrong places exposing themselves to abuse. God is The Greatest Father EVER!
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I was searching articles on same topic for my next stream and this comes along the way– ab seedha copy paste – hahaha
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Thank you very much indeed !!
No Copy rights do as u want
May Allah bless you and your stream …Good Luck!
Gratitude
Love &
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Jazakallah 🙂
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Wa iyyakum !
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