Emotional Intelligence and Managament

Everyone’s always talking about Emotional Intelligence (EI) but what exactly is it? One important aspect of emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions – in oneself and others – and to use that information appropriately. For example, recognizing emotional intelligence in oneself can help you regulate and manage your emotions, while recognizing emotions in others can lead to empathy and success in your relationships, both personal and professional.
Given the importance of emotional intelligence, I thought it might be helpful to give a very brief overview of the topic, as well as 10 ways to enhance your emotional

 1. Don’t interrupt or change the subject. If feelings are uncomfortable, we may want to avoid them by interrupting or distracting ourselves. Sit down at least twice a day and ask, “How am I feeling?” It may take a little time for the feelings to arise. Allow yourself that small space of time, uninterrupted.

2. Don’t judge or edit your feelings too quickly. Try not to dismiss your feelings before you have a chance to think them through. Healthy emotions often rise and fall in a wave, rising, peaking, and fading naturally. Your aim should be not to cut off the wave before it peaks.
3. See if you can find connections between your feelings and other times you have felt the same way. When a difficult feeling arises, ask yourself, “When have I felt this feeling before?” Doing this may help you to realize if your current emotional state is reflective of the current situation, or of another time in your past.
4. Connect your feelings with your thoughts. When you feel something that strikes you as out of the ordinary, it is always useful to ask, “What do I think about that?” Often times, one of our feelings will contradict others. That’s normal. Listening to your feelings is like listening to all the witnesses in a court case. Only by admitting all the evidence will you be able to reach the best verdict.

5. Listen to your body. A knot in your stomach while driving to work may be a clue that your job is a source of stress. A flutter of the heart when you pick up a girl you have just started to date may be a clue that this could be “the real thing.” Listening to these sensations and the underlying feelings that they signal will allow you to process with your powers of reason.
6. If you don’t know how you’re feeling, ask someone else. People seldom realize that others are able to judge how they are feeling. Ask someone who knows you (and whom you trust) how you are coming across. You may find the answer both surprising and illuminating.

7. Tune in to your unconscious feelings. How can you become more aware of your unconscious feelings? Try free association. While in a relaxed state, allow your thoughts to roam freely and watch where they go. Analyze your dreams. Keep a notebook and pen at the side of your bed and jot down your dreams as soon as you wake up. Pay special attention to dreams that repeat or are charged with powerful emotion.
8. Ask yourself: How do I feel today? Start by rating your overall sense of well-being on a scale of 0 and 100 and write the scores down in a daily log book. If your feelings seem extreme one day, take a minute or two to think about any ideas or associations that seem to be connected with the feeling.

9. Write thoughts and feelings down. Research has shown that writing down your thoughts and feelings can help profoundly. A simple exercise like this could take only a few hours per week.
10. Know when enough is enough. There comes a time to stop looking inward; learn when its time to shift your focus outward. Studies have shown that encouraging people to dwell upon negative feelings can amplify these feelings. Emotional intelligence involves not only the ability to look within, but also to be present in the world around you.


What is Fatawa….? 

The word “fatwa” has become well known around the world. People often hear that a Muslim cleric or scholar has issued a “fatwa”. In some cases, this word has been associated with very negative things, such as a death sentence on a person or a severe punishment. The word “fatwa” has been made popular by media outlets looking for more sensational stories in order to capture the largest possible audience. In their pursuit of ratings, the media need to find an enemy that they can portray as evil and vicious, because such stories trigger fear in viewers and make them interested in following such stories in the media. Media outlets love to find words such as “fatwa” that they can use in their reports. This gives the report a more serious tone, and makes it appear as if the reporter is an expert on the subject, because no one knows what this word means and no one has heard it before. However, the media turns such a word into a keyword that catches the eye and the ear or the average person, all in the pursuit of more viewers and higher ratings.
So what does the word “fatwa” actually mean? It is an Arabic word, and it literally means “opinion”. Related words in Arabic are “afta”, which means to give an opinion, and “yastafti”, which means to ask for an opinion. In fact, in Arabic countries, an opinion poll is called an “istifta”, which is simply a different form of the same word. As you can see, there is nothing sinister or scary about the word itself. So why do media outlets not just say “opinion” so that everyone can understand what they are talking about? Would you care about the opinion of some cleric in Iran or Afghanistan? Probably not. But the use of a foreign sounding word such as “fatwa”, along with all of the negative and evil connotations that it carries, will catch the attention of a good number of people. This translates into more viewers, higher ratings and more advertising dollars.
This was the linguistic meaning of the word “fatwa”. In a religious context, the word “fatwa” carries more meaning. This is because when a Muslim has a question that they need to be answered from an Islamic point of view, they ask an Islamic scholar this question, and the answer is known as a “fatwa”. This “fatwa” carries more weight than just the random opinion of any person on the street. Muslim scholars are expected to give their “fatwa” based on religious evidence, NOT BASED ON THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS. Therefore, their “fatwa” is sometimes regarded as a religious ruling.
Hence, media should stop misusing the term fatwa, personal statement/opinion of any Tom dick harry is not fatwa and muslim are not bound to follow the so called fatwa.

Any person wearing skull cap n sporting beard is not scholar of islam or representative of whole muslim community.
When a muslim needs to know the ruling of Islam in a particular case or matter, he/she consults a qualified Islamic scholar to ask for the same since not every Muslim is knows all such intricate matters. The answer given by the scholar or cleric in the light of Islamic rulings is called “fatwa”.


Physics Explain Metaphysics 

Human senses are limited in their capacity to see, feel, or measure objects. Thus, they constrict the domain of human knowledge. Be it the reality of an atom or what lies beyond this universe, these are the facts that are beyond the human capacity to perceive. It can merely be based on guess or speculation. Help could be sought from the rules that govern the natural phenomena. Thus, one could be partly successful in explaining the metaphysical phenomena arguing from these physical phenomena. Even the physical world carries several hints about the metaphysical domain. Without this, even this world would perhaps be much more mysterious place. Inherent in the physical phenomena is the fact that there exists a great source of metaphysical power, which pulls the string all over the vast universe. And these metaphysical realities could only be perceived and proved through argument, which clearly lies in the ambit of philosophy.

It must be understood here that partial realities of the physical world could act as a set of premises in proving the existence of the Almighty God, His creative prowess, sustenance, omnipotence, and omniscience. Scientific facts can, however, only play a marginal role; the larger principles have to be deduced at the philosophical level. Thus scientific facts clearly points to the existence of a creator and a sustainer for the entire universe. The modern physics, rather than the ancient one, bear clearer references to the reality of God. Writings of the  noted scientists Sir Arthur Eddington and Sir James Jeans could be a guide. Every speck of this universe testifies to this reality. The Qur’an says:
“On the earth are signs for those of assured faith, as also in your own selves. Will you not see then?” (59: 2)

The Qur’an, therefore, invites man to ponder over phenomena of universe and unravel the mysteries embedded in them, which carry metaphysical insights and lessons for humanity. Some scientists were clear in their perception that at the root of the entire physical system lies the ultimate reality of a truly universal mind or self which is far from being mechanical.  Newton said:

“The business of natural philosophy to argue from phenomena … and to deduce causes from effects till we come to the very first cause which certainly is not mechanical.”

Science was never rebellious against religion while it was nurtured by the Muslims or in the Islamic ambience. However as the baton of scientific discoveries was passed on to the Europe, it began to assume materialistic contours. Lack of foresight by the church and the Christians contributed immensely to this development. This precise study does not afford any discussion here.

Materialist philosophy began to influence the human mind around the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries in the wake of the emergence of new scientific concepts. They were in the nature of explaining the creation of the universe from purely material perspective. This unleashed an avalanche.  There were no holds barred. Materialists had then no qualms in likening the entire universe to a machine, which once put into place, went on its own force producing a whole lot of physical forces. Even human beings were interpreted as machines where choice and instincts had no role. It went even further. Matter and energy were held as eternal and indestructible. Matter was nothing but a bundle of compressed atoms, which were bonded together with gravitational force. Universe had no beginning and was eternal. Some even went to the extreme of declaring that once the universe came into being, it needed none to sustain it; belief in God is redundant. It is like bidding farewell to the creator of the universe after due thanks. Sir James Jeans describes the materialistic philosophy that emerged between seventeenth and nineteenth centuries in the following words:

“The final establishment of this law as the primary guiding principle in nature was the triumph of the seventeenth century, the great century of Galileo and Newton. Apparitions in the sky were shown to result merely from the universal laws of optics; comets, which had hitherto been regarded as portents of the fall of empires or the death of kings, were proved to have their motions prescribed by the universal law of gravitation. ‘And’ wrote Newton would that the rest of the phenomena of nature could be deduced by a like kind of reasoning from mechanical principles.

“Out of this resulted a movement to interpret the whole material universe as a machine, a movement which steadily gained force until it’s culmination in the latter half of the nineteenth century. It was then that Helmholtz declared that ‘the final aim of all natural science is to resolve itself into machinist’”.

This mind-set led to the belief that human life and the brain too were subjected to mechanical action. The fact is that all those claims that were advanced on the basis of the materialistic theories were rooted in the Maxwell and Newton’s assumptions and laws of motion, whereas the twentieth century discoveries have amply disproved them by the theory of relativity. Similarly the quantum theory has made the mechanical concept  of the law of causation redundant. On these same lines, the theory of atom being indivisible or indestructible has been rendered obsolete due to the discovery of the elementary particles. Moreover, the fact that the matter has been proved to be ‘solid energy’ has put the seal of verification over extinction of matter. Consequently, matter could be converted into energy and vice versa, given the discoveries in the twentieth century. Likewise, the second law of thermodynamics has invalidated the law of conservation of energy. It is widely known today that stars are continually losing their body mass due to radiation.

In fact until the culmination of the nineteenth century the world of science was unanimous in its acceptance of the three major conservation laws, those of the conservation of matter, mass, and energy. They meant that matter and mass could never be annihilated and would remain in some form or the other ceaselessly. The energy, that is electricity, light, steam, sound, and magnetism too was eternal but the findings of the twentieth century have rendered them invalid as it has been fully substantiated that they are only the different forms of one single entity. Today, matter is frozen; energy is ‘fluid matter’. They are interchangeable too. Thus, following the discovery of elementary particles, matter is no more solid, and has been proved to be composed of electrical waves or radiations. These radiations are continuously spreading out in the space and dissolving themselves. As a result, stars are losing their mass through constant radiation.

Modern physics had its beginning in 1895 when X-rays were discovered. In this context, noted Philosopher C.E.M Joad writes:

“Ultimately, therefore, the fate of the universe is to dissolve into radiation; there would be neither sunlight nor starlight but only a cool glow of radiation uniformly diffused through space.”

It is therefore, estimated that the sun radiates nearly 250 million tons of energy a minute. Hence the ‘death’ of matter is in reality the death of materialism. Inherent in these scientific facts is the reality that the age of materialism is over. It has several insights for us, yet some materialists are hell bent upon the orthodox theories.


Divorce In Islam

Devout Muslims take their marriage seriously because in Islam divorce is disliked and should be considered the very last resort for a bad or strained relationship. If problems arise in a marriage, both parties should seek to solve through family intervention if their own efforts bear no fruit. Islamic divorce procedure is vastly different from the western one, mainly because it is based on very well defined, unchangeable, yet easy and just rulings. Judicial system works more efficiently in countries governed by the Islamic shari’ah because of these characteristics. Hence Muslims living in an Islamic society are at an advantage in this matter. They know what to expect both in cases of marriage and divorce, and everything is taken care of by the Islamic court itself. The west does not have such a beneficial system. Constantly changing laws can raise havoc there in such matters. Moreover, one has to hire an expensive attorney that not everyone can afford and hope to get an unbiased judge.

In Islam divorce is not such a simple thing as it is misunderstood by some people. It has certain rulings, and is forbidden under certain circumstances.  It is legally forbidden to pronounce divorce during a woman’s monthly menstrual cycle and if the couple has had intercourse after her last monthly period. This prohibition addresses a few pertinent matters. For one, a woman is likely to experience emotional ups and downs during menstruation. This in turn creates more stress and may deter any reconciliation. If divorce is pronounced to a woman during this time, she may tend to be more emotional, cause undue trauma for her and her family. After the pronouncement of divorce, an additional waiting period of three monthly cycles must pass in order to facilitate any possible reconciliation. If the woman is pregnant, the waiting time is until the birth of the baby regardless of the length of the time. The Muslim man, regardless of his desire for divorce at this time must wait out the entire period of pregnancy.  In other words, he cannot abandon his wife while she is carrying their child. He must continue to maintain her throughout the pregnancy, and possibly after the childbirth when divorce is finalized. The mother can nurse her child and is entitled to get support from its father until it reaches the age of two. If the mother refuses, the husband must be prepared to hire someone else as a nurse.

The waiting period as prescribed acts as a buffer. Divorce is stressful enough for both the parties concerned.  The waiting period is often a time for reconciliation, which is permissible and even desirable. Whatever the circumstances may be, Islam forbids cruel treatment of either partner, and equitable, humane respect is expected from every person involved. Islamic divorce does not take place publicly in front of a judge or in a courtroom full of strangers. Consciousness of God as an omnipresent power is a fundamental underlying force in Islam; therefore, Muslim men and women are expected to be responsible at all times, even during the delicate process of divorce. Due to the element of religious and moral uprightness required of Muslims and because Islam has defined everything, making a divorce public would not be beneficial.

In Islam the general grounds for divorce are simple and humane. It is the inability of either the husband or the wife to continue keeping their marital duties. It might be that one simply cannot live peacefully or compassionately with the other. It is inhumane to force a person to stay with someone under duress. Some acceptable reasons to justify a wife’s request for divorce include a husband being absent for an extended period without his wife’s consent, he being neglectful of his wife and her needs, inability or unwillingness on his part to provide for his wife, excessive financial stress, or the inability to reproduce. Circumstances which require dissolution are when a wife accepts Islam but the husband does not or if either partner denounces his/her faith. Also if the marriage contract is found to be incorrect or void due to falsification or error, a divorce must take place.

Quran says regarding divorce:

The divorce is final after waiting period is finished.
The couple may now go their separate ways. For children under the age of two, the mother is given custody for the purpose of breastfeeding. The father is at this time required to pay for the maintenance of the mother and child until the child reaches the age of weaning; (Surah Talaq 65:1)

And at another place, it says:

If no agreement is reached by the parents concerning custody, the child is normally retained by the mother during preschool years and then may be given to the father, unless it against the best intrests of the child. (Surah Baqarah 2:233)

It must be understood that the Muslim men are forever the wards and providers for their children even after the divorce. This means that children in Islam are protected by this command, unlike in the west where “deadbeat dads” exist. In case where father is granted the custody of children, he cannot forbid the mother from seeing, keeping contact with or visiting her children. This is anti-Islamic and would be cruel. In Islam divorce does not mean the end of parent-child relationship. One of the prerequisites to enter Heaven is that one has been good to and has honoured the womb which bore him.

A couple may be divorced twice, after which they may remarry.  However, after the third divorce it is forbidden to reconcile until the woman has first married another man with the intention of permanence.  Then she must have been widowed or divorced from the second husband. This forces couples to be very careful about their actions and words towards one another and does not allow for the ease of divorce to be abused or taken for granted. Divorce in Islam has been made easy, but not so easy that people will take advantage of it.


Beware ! Of the Kharijite Fitna (Trial) in the name of Islam


Beware of the Kharijite Fitnah in the Name of Islam!


The most dangerous sect in Islam are the Kharijites (Al-Khawarij). They have existed since the very early period of Islam and they will continue to cause strife in the Muslim nation until the end of time when they will join forces with the False Messiah,Anti Christ (Dajjal). We must be aware of their ideology and characteristics in order to protect ourselves from unwittingly supporting their destructive behavior. The kharijites earned their name from the root “kha-ra-ja” meaning “to go out”, because they exited Islam and the Muslim community due to their heretical innovations.

The kharijite ideology is based upon the following evil tenets:

– Declaring Muslims to be unbelievers.

– Rejecting lawful obedience to the rulers.

– Justifying violence against Muslims and innocent people.

Regarding the first tenet, the correct Islamic belief is that no Muslim can become an unbeliever due to his sins alone. Imam At-Tahawi states: {…} “We do not excommunicate anyone who prays toward Mecca because of his sins as long as he does not consider them lawful, and we do not say sins do not harm the faith of those who commit them.” (Source: Aqeedah At-Tahawi). A Muslim must explicitly disavow Islam in order to be properly considered an unbeliever as Imam at-tahawi states: {…} “A person does not leave faith except by disavowing what brought him into it.” (Source: Aqeedah At-Tahawi). But the Kharijites charge other Muslims with unbelief due to their sins or perceived sins in order to justify their merciless and criminal behavior towards them. Ibn taymiyyah writes:


“The kharijite sect was the first to declare Muslims to be unbelievers because of their sins. They charged as unbelievers whoever disagreed with their innovations and they made lawful the spilling of blood and the taking of wealth. This is the condition of people of innovation, that they invent some religious innovation and then they excommunicate whoever disagrees with them concerning it. Rather, the people of the Sunnah and the community follow the Book and the Sunnah and they obey Allah and His Messenger and follow the truth. They have mercy upon the creation.” (Source: Majmu’ Al-Fatawa 1/278)

True Muslims have mercy upon the entire creation, including unbelievers and idolaters, but the Kharijites have no mercy for those outside their group. They declare other Muslims to be unbelievers by misinterpreting and misapplying the verses of the Quran. Al-Bukhari reported: Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, considered the Kharijites to be the worst of Allah’s creation and said: {…} Indeed, they take verses that were revealed about unbelievers and use them against the believers.” (Source: Sahih Bukhari 6531, Grade: Sahih). In the early period of Islam, they even declared Ali Ibn Abi Talib to be unbeliever when he intended to reconcile with Mu’awiyah.

The Kharijites believe their opinions regarding leadership, government, politics, and the Sharia are the only valid opinions in Islam and whoever disagrees with them becomes an unbeliever. However, the truth is that much of these matters are left open to interpretation and consultation among the Muslims. In fact, the Prophet commanded us to distinguish between the rule of Allah and the rule of people and not to claim our opinions as the rulings of Allah. Buraida reported: When the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would appoint a commander over the army, he would personally enjoin him to fear Allah and to be good with the Muslims who were with him. The Prophet would say:


“When you besiege the people of a fortress and they appeal to you for protection in the name of Allah and His Prophet, do not give them protection in the name of Allah and His Prophet but rather give them protection in the name of you and your companions. Verily, for you to violate the protection of yourself and your companions is a lesser sin than to violate the protection of Allah and His Messenger. When you besiege the people of a fortress and they appeal  for you to bring them out according to the rule of Allah, do not bring them out according to the rule of Allah but rather bring them out according to your ruling. Verily, you do not know if you will judge with the ruling of Allah concerning them or not.” (Source: Sahih Muslim 1731, Grade: Sahih)

Thus, Muslims must distinguish between the rule of Allah and the rule of people. Yet the Kharijites, who make no such distinction, will charge other Muslims with unbelief who disagree with their views. In fact, the kharijites do not simply declare Muslims to be unbelievers in a theoretical way, but rather they call for violent rebellion against entire Muslim societies.

Regarding the second tenet that is about the Muslim rulers, the correct Islamic belief is that we must obey them in all lawful matters. We should disobey them only if they command us to commit sins and we may not call for a violent overthrow of their governments as long as they allow the prayer. Umm Salamah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: {…} “There will be rulers from whom you will see both goodness and corruption. One who recognizes their evil and hates it will maintain his innocence, but one who is pleased with it and follows them will be sinful.” It was said, “Shall we not fight them?” the Prophet said: {…} “No, as long as they pray.” (Source: Sahih Muslim 1854, Grade: Sahih). Thus, as long as Muslims are allowed to pray and practice the pillars of Islam, rebellion against the rulers will not be justified. However, the Kharijites rebel against the rulers not to protect religion, but for inexcusable worldly reasons.

In general, Muslims must work to reform societies through non-violent methods such as teaching, preaching, and charity. Violence is only the last resort. The Kharijites, on the other hand, charge Muslim leaders with disbelief and those also who do not support their call for violent rebellion. In this way, they justify indiscriminate violence against entire Muslim societies. Abu huraira reported: The messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:


“Whoever rejects obedience to the leader and divides the community and dies will have died upon ignorance. Whoever fights under the banner of one who is blind, raging for the sake of tribalism, or calling to tribalism, or supporting tribalism, and is killed will have died upon ignorance. Whoever rebels against my nation, striking the righteous and wicked alike and sparing not even the believers and does not fulfill the pledge of security, then he has nothing to do with me and I have nothing to do with him.” (Source: Sahih Muslim 1848, Grade: Sahih)

This narration succinctly describes the characteristics of the kharijites and their violent behavior. They reject lawful obedience to Muslim leaders and they fight according to their tribal zeal, which means that they are not concerned with justice for their victims. They attack both the righteous and the wicked, and they do not honor covenants of security and the protection of civilians. In our times, you will see them target markets, bus stations, airports, and other places frequented by unarmed civilians. The purpose of such attacks is not to achieve any immediate military objectives, but rather to spread terror among the population and destabilize the government. Thus, they follow the same path as the first Kharijites in the early period of Islam.

Ibn Kathir writes: {…} “If the Khawarij ever gained power, they would corrupt the entire earth, Iraq, and Syria. They would not leave a boy or a girl or a man or a woman, for in their view the people have become so corrupt that they cannot be reformed except by mass killing.” (Source: Al-Bidayah Wa Nihayah 10/584). Wherever they appear, the kharijites cause division among the Muslims at large and even among their own groups. Whenever they form a group, it is not long before splinter groups and off-shoots appear with each one claiming to have the right to seize the Caliphate.

Wahb Ibn Munabbih said:


“I knew the early period of Islam. By Allah, the Kharijites never had a group except that Allah caused it to split due to their evil condition. Never did one of them proclaim his opinion except that Allah caused his neck to be struck. Never did the Muslim nation unite upon a man from the Kharijites. If Allah had allowed the opinion of the Kharijites to take root, the earth would have been corrupted, the roadways would have been cut off, the Hajj pilgrimage to the sacred house of Allah would have been cut off, and the affair of Islam would have returned to ignorance until the people would seek refuge in the mountains as they had done in the time of ignorance. If there were to arise among them ten or twenty men, there would not be a man among them except that he would claim the Caliphate for himself. With each men among them would be ten thousand others, all of them fighting each other and charging each other with unbelief until even the believer would fear for himself, his religion, his life, his family, his wealth, and he would not know where to travel or with whom he should be.” (Source: Ta’reekh Dimshaq 69290)

Nevertheless, the Kharijites have been successful recruiting ignorant or desperate Muslims. The Prophet describes them as using beautiful Islamic rhetoric and selling “foolish dreams” to the Muslim masses. Ali Ibn Abu Talib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: {…} “In the last days, there will be young people with foolish dreams. They will say the best of words in creation but they will pass through Islam just as an arrow passes  through its game. Their faith will not go beyond their throats.” (Source: Sahih Bukhari 4770, Grade Muttafaqun Alayhi). Their “foolish dreams” are their promises of an Islamic Utopia, a glorious jihad, a new Caliphate that will bring honor and strength back to the Muslims. Yet, their dreams are unrealistic and their methodologies dangerous to the very people they claim to be helping. Their understanding of faith is so shallow, superficial, and hypocritical that they cause even greater harm to Muslim community. Like their predecessors, their preaching and propaganda entices people to join their cause but by their actions they are the worst of creation, even though they recite the Quran and call to Islam. They bring forth verses of the Quran to bolster their arguments but wield them against the objectives of Islam.

Sa’eed Ibn Jubair reported: We were met by Abdullah Ibn Umar and we hoped that he would narrate to us a good saying. A man approached him and he said, “O Abu Abdur Rahman, tell us about fighting during times of persecution as Allah said: And fight until there is no more persecution.” (2:193). Ibn Umar said: {…} “Do you know what persecution is? May your mother be bereaved of you! Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, only fought the idolaters as there was persecution for practicing their religion. It was not like your fighting for the sake of ruling.” (Source: Sahih Bukhari 6682, Grade: Sahih). The purpose of a just war in Islam is to end religious persecution and to protect innocent people, yet the Kharijites use such verses to further persecute Muslims and to justify their worldly ambitions of political power.

World will keep witnessing the violent call of the Kharijites appearing again and again until the end of time when the False Messiah appears among them. They follow the same Satanic forces from which will emerge the greatest tribulation and suffering ever faced by humanity. Abdullah Ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: {…} “There will emerge from the east some people from my nation who will recite the Quran but it will not go beyond their throats. Every time a faction of them emerges it will be cut off.” The prophet repeated this and on the tenth time he said: {…} “Every time a faction of them emerges it will be cut off until the False Messiah emerges from their remnants.” (Source: Musnad Ahmad 27767, Grade: Sahih). As such, in our times we are witnessing a number of conflicts between oppressive governments and rebel Kharijite forces. Muslims are stuck between the spear of the ruler and the sword of the rebel. In such cases, we must remain patient and work to reform and improve our communities through education, preaching, and charity.

Abdullah Ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: {…} “There will be a tribulation that will wipe out the Arabs in which those killed on both sides are in the Hellfire. In that time the tongue will be stronger than the sword.” (Source: Musnad Ahmad 6941, Grade: Sahih). If we are not careful, we might fall into the sins of either side of the conflict by legitimizing the misdeeds of an oppressive government or justifying acts of terrorism in response. We should not rush to support one or the other side in such conflicts as they are tribulations (fitnah) in which the truth is unclear. Therefore, we must be patient, resist calls for violence, and avoid getting involved in these conflicts. If we are patient, it will not be long before Allah will give us a way out. But if we call for violence, then Allah will heap more violence upon us. Haan Al-Basri, may Allah have mercy on him, said: {…} “If the people had patience when they are being tested by their unjust ruler, it will not be long before Allah will give them a way out. However, they always rush to their swords, so they are left with their swords. By Allah, not even for a single day did they bring about any good.” (Source: Tabaqat Al-Kubra 8789)

Satan intends to use the alluring call of the Kharijites as a means to drag us into the Hellfire. We have to resist them by upholding the true teachings of Islam: mercy with the creation, patience, with hardship, justice with our enemies. The Kharijites intend to impress us by their outward displays of faith, but inwardly they have no faith. It is only by understanding the true spirit of Islam in both its inward and outward teachings that we can save ourselves, our children, and our communities or societies from falling under the influence of their dangerous ideology.


Who is Liberated in the West ? Part 2


Is Paradise for Men Only?

One cannot predict how long this paradise will continue to thrive, but it is clear that if there should happen a real women’s awakening and real women’s liberation movement then its end would be easier to foresee. The women movement has done nothing to change the way men and women live together as man and wife. In fact, it has created the type of society many men would crave; free sex, no marriage constraints, and no financial responsibilities. Most men applaud women’s strides in the liberation movement because they know they are being let off the hook more and more as time goes by. Deep inside them they realize they would never trade places with a woman because her life is filled to the brim with extra financial demands, a lower social status, and more stress.


What bothers most women about men in the west is that while they expect their wives  to work outside, they still call house work “women’s work.” And then there is a man who makes his wife feel inferior by reminding her his salary is bigger than hers. In what way is this woman liberated when she is performing so much more than her share towards her relationship, marriage and family?


Only a few years ago women cleverly designed legally binding contracts called prenuptial agreements to protect their assets and economic security during marriage and in case of divorce. Men accused women who asked for such contracts, manipulative and demanding, simply because she was looking out for herself.


If a woman has property, a high paying career or other assets, it becomes a partial property of her future husband if she does not state otherwise in a prenuptial agreements. This portrays the double standard women in the west face. Whenever a man asserts himself or “beats the system,” he is called intelligent and resourceful, but if a woman asserts herself, she is called manly or aggressive. The system is designed so that men are the only ones allowed to play.


Who is Liberated in the West ?


It is time to stop talking about women because the ones who have been liberated in the west do not wear dresses. If there is anyone who has won points from the women’s liberation movements, it certainly has got to be men. At every turn he leaps ahead, is promoted, is listened to in the workplace, and is catered to inside and outside of marriage, not only by the legal Justice System and Government politics, but also by the women of society.


Feminists try to copy him, and this must make him feel even more superior. He has enjoyed up until now the best of both the worlds. Certainly, the western lives in a “man’s world” that has been described by some as a paradise for men.