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Immorality, Sex Object, & Rampant Divorce


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It has often been asserted that Islam is a religion of extremism. Yet, in all fairness, the same can be said of western culture when seen from all Islamic prospective. The two systems demonstrate very different ways of life but this does not necessarily mean that they have totally different values. An Islamic society is structured to obtain what many western people believe in and value but what they are unable to achieve through the way their society is structured. Many relationships in the west are treated as casual interludes. This casualness has allowed women to be degraded and men to be abusive. This is seen not only in Hollywood, in modelling and on television, but also in the workplace. This importance of the woman’s personality and character has been taken away and has been Replaced with something else – her appearance. Most significantly there has emerged a society of people set free from morality. No one should wonder why this society is so divorce ridden. Although reasons of divorce vary; one study highlights the distinct difference between Islamic societies (where strong closely knit family structures are the norm) and western style families.

A new study shows the risks of divorce or separation goes up for young married couples in the United States, if they live in an area with plenty of unmarried and unavailable men or women. This suggests many husbands and wives keep an eye out for a better partner. Researcher Scott J. South says “the more possibility they see, the better chance of finding someone worth leaving the marriage for.” He assumes unhappy marriages are especially vulnerable but he could not rule out some effect on people quite satisfied with their marriages who happen to meet the partner of their dreams.

This gives rise to the notion that in societies where casual sexual relationships are condoned and where women and men mix freely, that this could cause the likelihood of divorce to escalate drastically. While some divorces occur because the two people have simply grown apart, the study suggests that in a “liberated” society marriage break-ups are a result of cultural instability and societal pressures.

Furthermore, it seems reasonable to expect that men will have busier eyes when women are on parade in public dressing in order to garner attention. The natural inclination for men to gaze is within their nature and is not something that will go away or change. Men will not one day wake up and have a new sexual orientation, nor will they become magically decentralized to women. The way in which a woman dresses can either deter this inclination in men or heighten or even instigate unwanted attention from men. Today, western men are quite literally saturated by visual stimuli at every turn. Sex and sensuality is a dominating theme. Whether in a work place, in public, or on the TV screen, sex is everywhere.

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37 comments on “Immorality, Sex Object, & Rampant Divorce

  1. Fully agreed and specially the last para is just so hilarious and off course true.

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  2. True there is some immoral behaviour in the west but we don’t all buy into it nor do we approve it.
    Leslie

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  3. Great post
    I feel sad when I find the majority of the movies in my country and other Arab countries are concentrating on the body of the woman
    Most of them do not care for the story of the movie or the moral
    Instead they care for dancers who wear nearly nothing
    May Allah bless your steps
    Thanks

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  4. I agree with you Imran that divorce is an ugly and more rampant thing in the Western world. But what’s even uglier is the control and abuse some men think they can have over women and get away with it. It’s acceptable for women to dress nicely just as it’s acceptable for men to gaze at a woman’s beauty. 🙂 It’s about striking a balance between the two and maybe that’s where the confusion is? I liked your post 🙂

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  5. Assalamu’alaikum,
    Impressive posting, brother.

    Quoting you: “A new study shows the risks of divorce or separation goes up for young married couples in the United States, if they live in an area with plenty of unmarried and unavailable men or women. This suggests many husbands and wives keep an eye out for a better partner. Researcher Scott J. South says “the more possibility they see, the better chance of finding someone worth leaving the marriage for.” —> this is accurate. And it’s not only in USA. It happens in Indonesia too.

    My country, Indonesia, is one of the biggest Muslim countries in the world. Islam is the major religion practiced by the citizens (appx 90%). But we’re not an Islamic country. Therefore, the rules and regulations here mainly made by human. And of course, man-made regulations are not flawless. Including the rule in marriage. Even though most of the rules are adopting the Qur’an and hadith/sunnah. Alas, the moral of the society degraded by the massive penetration of Western cultures and ideology.

    But, personally, I do not blame Western cultures/ideology. Everything depends on the person him/herself. Life, culture and way of thinking are like the ocean. The society is swimming in it. So it’s our own decision to let the sea water enters our mouth to our digestion and blood system, ruining our health; or to drown completely in it (and probably died, if not lucky enough to transform into a merman/mermaid, hehehe..) ; or simply just let it cleanse our body that it has no effect to our health but new knowledge of how to swim better. 🙂

    Alas, the society of this so-called “developing country” thinks that Western culture is so funk, so cool, so up-to-date. It made our youngsters started to drown in this new culture, not only absorbing, adopting, but swallow it entirely instead. Forgetting Eastern values. Forgetting religious values. So when it comes to marriage life, exactly like you said in the entry above.

    Again, impressive writing. Thank you for sharing this knowledge. Keep writing, I’ll keep reading them. And my apology for commenting this long.. 😉

    Wassalamu’alaikum..

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  6. May Allah grant the same wish for you too, dear brother. Take care. 🙂

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  7. Yessir. This article is spot-on. I notice these things as well, which is why I am taking my relationship very slowly. I don’t want to fall into this trap of divorce at all. It’s the worst thing ever. #divorceruinslives

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  8. Imran Ali you are bringing out the problems into lime light and reminding us all of the consequences too. May Allah forgive us and help us follow the right path. amen
    Peace, light, more wisdom and blessings to you dear one

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  9. The fine segregating line between morality and liberation is missing. Men and women get far with their definition of liberation. I see the concepts changing in youth. And that’s very sad. Immorality has penetrated deep within the society. Casual relationships have become like a rule of law.

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  10. Anything that is overdone turns into evil. Eventually, what was once good in start, with time turns into bad. It’s sheer imbalance that leads to rise of such evils.. Everything is good only if the balance is maintained.

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